We can’t remove emotion from our lives — it’s always been there since the beginning. Sometimes, when we’re making big life decisions, we have to face and work through past trauma. That trauma can show up in different ways. So how do we start to heal?
In this episode, I talk with Regard Tang, an energy healer and channeler who focuses on emotional and social trauma. We chat about how our childhood and our parents’ influence shape our emotional habits as we grow up. Regard shares why it’s important to deal with emotional and generational trauma so we can live healthier lives. She also explains how energy healing works, including how she connects with a person’s ancestors and spirit guides to help uncover and release deep emotional pain.
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Healing Emotional Trauma and Understanding Energy with Regard Tang
Welcome to Action’s Antidotes, your antidote to the mindset that keeps you settling for less. When we are preparing for whatever our next move is, oftentimes that will be starting a business, starting a new initiative, or starting a new chapter in our lives, we need to do various things to, whether it be purge the old chapters or just kind of heal, reset ourselves, oftentimes, that will involve kind of overcoming or processing some trauma from previous areas of our lives, and that can take on many different forms, but it is a very important thing that I think a lot of people don’t necessarily think of of why am I in this mentality where I don’t seem to ever be able to get a move on what I’m doing or make a decision or really kind of go for what I’m going for. And so I want to present with you various different forms in which we can heal the trauma, because there’s many different ways that we can process our energy. Today, my guest is Regard Tang, and she is an energy healer and a channeler.
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Regard, welcome to the program.
Thank you for having me, Stephen.
Thank you so much. And I want to start this podcast with a quick explanation, because I’m bringing on a concept that may be new to a lot of people about the two things that you do, which are energy healing and channeling. By energy healing, what does that mean? What does that really entail?
So, energy healing, we all carry different kind of energy. Some people, they carry a little bit like a heavier energy and I’m sure that when you walk into the room, you can just stand –– the room is carrying those very heavy energy versus when you’re seeing some people that they’re very bubbly and they’re just like lighter, they light you up. So energy healing, what I do? I do channeling. So energy healing, you can go to sound healing, you can go to reiki. There’s a lot of different methods, but for me, I specialize in channeling. What does channeling mean? It means that I can talk to my client’s ancestors, I can talk to my client’s spirit guides, which is spirit team, and I can also talk to my client’s inner self, means that, because I specialize in emotional trauma and social trauma, so I’m able to tell are their emotion aligned? Means that they’re like, “Well, I experienced X, Y and Z,” but I’m able to tap into their emotion, it’s like, actually, it’s not exactly what you feel on their surface. I can feel very, very deep emotions that they literally put it in the box and put it away when they were younger. And, of course, in a minute, we’ll explain a little bit more, but that is what I do.
Okay. And so I want to start the beginning of the story, which is these emotions that are pushed away and the energy that people all kind of come out in the room, because it sounds like this is something that could be really limiting some people from living their best lives and really presenting themselves in a way. So, what does it look like for someone whose energy is not aligned because of an emotional baggage from the past? What does it feel like when you walk into a room and you encounter that person and what is usually that person’s experience?
That is a great question. Well, let’s put it this way, society is leading us to suppress our emotions. But a lot of us, we get our emotions from our parents, like how are we formed as an adult? A lot of times, it comes from our childhood and childhood trauma. And also that while I’ve been doing this work, I didn’t know that when a mother is actually carrying the baby, the baby is able –– is kind of like a little sponge and able to receive how’s the mother’s emotions during the pregnancy. And then, obviously, that is epigenetic. And epigenetic is a little different than genetic. So genetic means that I’m Chinese so I have black hair, I have brown eyes, I look like Asian, period, but then epigenetic, a lot of times, it comes from the environment, the diet, and also their emotions. So this is how it forms our emotions. But, of course, we come from a certain program, and, let’s say if the household, a little child growing up, the parents, they use substance, and a lot of times my clients, when they grow up, they will copy –– I always say copy and paste because that they don’t really have the awareness of knowing that, oh, that was actually my parents’ habit or my parents’ program and I just take it in as a little sponge, as I mentioned earlier, and then a lot of time, the kids, they’re just holding on those program, even though my clients, they are 40, 50, 60s, they still have that programming in their mindset, in their mind. And, of course, once we understand what is the root cause or what is the root of it and you put in the work, then we can reprogram.
We have to unlearn to relearn something new. Share on XBasically, how are we able to identify our emotions and not carrying those heavy emotions and then release it or let it go and reprogram in order to bring in the new ones.
So I think a common emotion that’s being talked about quite a bit, particularly over the last, say, five to eight years, is anxiety. And we’ve heard people say, “I have anxiety,” which, to me, baffles me because it feels like everyone’s anxious about some things but that’s a whole separate issue, but let’s just say that there’s a lot of people who have that programming because their parents, when they were a kid or when they were in utero had a lot of anxiety. What does that look like for someone who has that anxiety program and needs to let that go?
So I always say that people thought like, “Oh, yeah, I want to delete that emotion. I don’t want that to be with me anymore,” and I always joke about good luck with that because you can’t delete an emotion, just like sadness, jealousy, resentment, sometimes when we feel like lack, like, oh, I feel like –– it’s not feeling what I need. Happiness, joy. Some people, they don’t really understand what joy means, we can talk about a little bit more in a minute, but it’s just all kinds of emotions is within us. So you cannot delete it. You can understand and catch that at that moment and like, “Oh, it’s showing up for me right now, and I appreciate that you show up, however, I don’t need you at this moment,” because anxiety, a lot of times, why people are anxious, they are trying to predict what they want.
Anxiety is future. Depression is from the past. Share on XSo when people, especially nowadays society is a lot of comparison, and when you compare, you’re like, okay, how am I going to get there? Then, of course, that is anxiety. Anxious has been around since day one that we have humans on Earth. It is not a new emotion. But now that we are using a little bit more, I think it’s because of COVID, to be honest with you. COVID, because there’s a lot of things that you cannot predict, you don’t know what does the future looks like, that’s why anxious comes up a lot, especially like depression as well because I always say depression and anxiety, they are basically like a sister or twins, for some people. But in the past, because we are not huge or as big as mental health.
Yeah, yeah. It was ignored for most of humanity.
Exactly, because think about my parents that they are boomers and I joke about the boomers, they do not have much emotions, which is true.
Yeah, in many cases.
Yeah, because, they’ve been suppressing and they learned from their parents, which is our grandparents, that they don’t know how to understand what emotions mean, and now we have the privilege to understand what emotions means to us. So I hope that I answered the question.
Yeah. So what you’re saying is that whether it’s anxiety or any other emotion, it’s not about deleting it, which sounds like going back to that past of like denying your feelings, not thinking about your feelings, and just taking it out on the bottle, is to recognize the emotion, but then saying, putting into context, I guess, would be the best way to say it, and just saying, okay, maybe I don’t need this emotion right now. If it’s anxiety based on comparison, there’s a way you could take a deep breath and say, “Okay, the fact that this person has more than me is making me anxious right now but why is it making me anxious? And does it make me any less satisfied with what I do have?”
Yeah, so I always suggest, no matter it’s my friends or people that I come across or my clients, does this emotion serve you at this moment? You can identify it, you can honor it, okay, I’m letting you to show up today, I’m going to let you show up tomorrow, but I’m not going to let you dictate rest of my life. Same as ego, right? A lot of times people don’t understand what ego mean and people is like, “Oh, yeah, I don’t need ego in my life,” whatever, and I’m like, well, good luck with that, because you cannot delete it. The same is one of the emotions. It’s here to protect you because I cannot predict what is going on, or people trigger us, and then your ego come out to protect us. But you can also honor your ego, it’s like, “Okay, thank you for showing up, but I don’t want you to be in the driver’s seat to just drive me wherever that you want to go is not what is served me for my higher self.”
So we’re trying to get to a place where, when our emotions pop up, we’re able to put into context and say, “All right, do we want it or not?” To discern, essentially. What is preventing people from getting to that point where they can process their emotions that way as opposed to maybe the standard manner in which people are more reactive and they just let the emotion give them a reaction to however it’s going to play out.
Yeah. So I love that you ask this question, because, a lot of times, it takes time to understand what is your old program is, and it takes a long time to understand that, “Oh, I actually picked up from my dad on this emotion and my mom on this emotion,” and once you’re able to identify it, I’m not saying that things won’t trigger you, things will still trigger you, however, once it’s triggered you, and then what you react and you have to do the damage control. Means that, let’s say, if me and you, Stephen, that we are like having a conversation and you trigger me on something and then I just blow up, and then, of course, it affects your emotions as well. But when I’m able to catch myself, I’m like, okay, this is how I react and let me apologize and understand that what show up the most, and I always ask people to journal about it and reflect. Reflection is very important, and people don’t talk much about reflections, I feel like, especially people, it’s like, “Oh, yeah, you have to do the word of affirmations, and you have to do self-care and this and that,”
Well, yeah, it feels to me like it just becomes just like everything else in life, another thing that you check off and then move on and if there’s anything I think our society is conditioning us to do right now that might be preventing this reflection process, it’s seeing everything as check off, even move your body to keep in shape is like now a thing where you measure how many minutes you worked out on some sort of app and then you check it off and it sounds like what you’re saying is that prevents people from reflecting on anything, whether it be emotion, an experience, an interaction, a relationship, or even something you see, something you smell.
So, reflection, it takes a lot of awareness and willing to take time because that we are in a microwave era, right? Everything is instant. So if we need a car, if our car broke down, Uber. If we are hungry and then like Uber Eats. If we need a date, million dating app out there.
Uber Dates?
Uber Dates, yes.
I don’t think that actually existed.
Hey, look, they might have it soon, you never know. Think about it, everything is instant. We are having like –– and also social media, like that is your specialty too, like how to help people to get off their phone. Everything, I need it now, and how the heck for us to, “Oh, yes. Let me take a moment to breathe and reflect.” Most of the time, that people that they do is meditations. While meditations, they are like quiet your monkey mind, but then the thing is, like meditations is like it’s the best way to reflect. This is a little bit personal but I’m just going to share it. I take a lot of time reflecting while I’m showering.
Okay, yeah, a lot of people do that too, I think.
Yeah, and brush my teeth, because like people, they are like, okay, let me fill in with music, let me fill in with podcasts, let me fill in with this and that.
And people don’t remember anything anymore.
Let’s say if your house is already cluttered, means that you have a lot of –– you’re busy with your work and you have a lot of inner chatter, if you don’t clear your house and then broadcast or news or social media, more information is putting into your house. How is it going to help you?
One of the things I do that I haven’t really talked about yet in this podcast is that when I’m reading a book, I actually never start a new chapter right away after finishing the previous one. I always at least take a moment to put the book down and take a couple of deep breaths. Usually, ideally, you’d think it through a little bit more, but it feels like if you’re constantly going from picking ––
More, more, more.
More, exactly, and that’s why I call the real TMI in this world, and people have trained us that TMI means certain things that people might find uncomfortable to talk about but, to me, the only TMI we need to really worry about is the fact that we’re constantly cluttering our brains with information and not giving us any time to even just process it.
Yep, and that’s the reason why a lot of people that they don’t understand their emotions. They react and self-reflect. So when you react, then, of course, like, “Oh, yeah, I blew up. I’m sorry I blew up,” but if you never reflect and understand and just break it down in like a bite size to understand why it triggers me, how am I going to react differently next time, you’re just going to do the same thing over and over and over and, of course, we learn it from our parents, your kid is going to learn it from you, your grandkids is going to learn it from your kids. It’s just generational thing.
Now, is there an aspect of it that can be controlled by the person on the other side of the equation? And what I mean is like you have a person that has an emotional reaction and they blow up or they do something less than ideal and then they apologize later, but, on the other side, is it possible for someone to say, okay, when I tell you a piece of information, it’s okay that you pause for 10 seconds, you don’t know exactly what to say or how to respond right away, because it’s something you need to reflect on before deciding the next words that are coming out of your mouth.
So I will say that in that case, you have to communicate really, really well, and you have to have a lot of trial and error with your partner in order to train that. Because that is going to be a new pattern. Means that –– well, let’s put it this way. We all have our reaction and then our inner thought, our inner chatter, it’s a two-person job when it comes to communications, period. One person is like, “Okay, I’m going to react, blah, blah,” and then the next person, like your partner, is going to tell you, “Hey, this is how you react.” But if person A not reflecting and not changing and still doing the same thing, do you think Person B able to keep Person A accountable? No.
I mean, it’s going to be tough.
So, yes, you can ask someone to hold you accountable, but at the end of the day, we are the one who are holding ourselves accountable and we are the one to remind ourselves, it’s like, okay, how am I going to be better today? How am I going to re–– I’m not asking people to over overthink, because this is how society is also, is overthinking, but I always say that give compassion to yourself. Yes, you make a mistake, you apologize. How am I going to be better? Instead of keep drilling of like, “Oh, I make mistakes,” that is basically like a self-abuse.
Rather than saying, give yourself a little grace, saying, okay, I could have done better, but I didn’t, but I was dealing with this, and I’m trying to do better and that’s good enough, you’re then just continuing to beat yourself up, which could actually make things worse in the longer term.
It becomes a lot of shame, a lot of guilt, but at the same time I always tell my client, okay, you identify that, try not to repeat it when it’s repeating, then acknowledge that and apologize to the person and then give yourself compassion and give yourself grace, like, “Okay, I did that, I shouldn’t be doing next time. However, I already did it.” You owned it and, at the same time, you’re like, okay, I’m giving myself compassion because it might not be a good day, I’m still human by the end of the day. So, yeah.
And I guess with respect to person B, the person on the other side of that outburst or whatever you want to call it, it’s up to that person to at least have some compassion for person A, have some level of compassion, saying, okay, this person may not be consciously trying necessarily to suddenly outburst a bunch of mean things, they’re just regurgitating or rehearsing patterns that have been with them and with their family for generations, to be honest.
Yeah. So, I always say that with your family, you can’t choose, as we all know about it. For instance, if a parent said they keep repeating of their trauma or they are throwing a tantrum, it doesn’t matter how old the persons are, like I met people that they are at 40s and 50, they still throw tantrum because basically their inner child got trapped inside. And, of course, that family that you cannot choose, partner you can choose, friends that you can choose, but at the same time, you have to understand what kind of boundaries I can set. Communications is huge to any kind of relationships, but, at the same time, it’s like, okay, this person has been repeating the same thing and then they were saying that, okay, I want to be better, but is this person really going to be better? Is it going to be their shit is my shit? How am I going to communicate my boundaries if they crossed it or they don’t respect me in any form? Do I need to stay? With parents, how am I able to reduce the time that I’m seeing them? I tell my clients I’m not saying that to cancel them completely, it’s how are you able –– you understand the dynamic and you understand how are you guys communicating, and if that person doesn’t serve you while you’re elevating, how are you able to reduce the time? Is it possible that you change certain way that you interact with them? But if you change different ways, let’s say that one of the parents they throw a tantrum, and then me as a kid, I’m like, okay, I’m reacting, but what if I’m not reacting, are they still doing the same thing? So it’s like a dance, there’s no one size fit all or like, “Oh, you do this and that person is going to do that.” It’s not going to be like this. You have to see the circumstances. But to, me, is compassionate boundaries and communications, no matter in what kind of relationships.
And it sounds to me like it’s an energetic boundary, in a way, just to make sure, like, okay, this person has this problem, and they’re in this energy but I have my own growth, my own path that I’m trying to engage in and I can’t let this, whatever this is, thwart that.
Yeah. So, it’s definitely energetic boundaries, but at the same time set, it’s physical boundaries. Means that, like, okay, if I see, let’s say, I mean, it’s not in my situation, but it’s like my clients, a lot of times, my client’s situations, it’s like the mom reacting the same thing, and then it doesn’t serve my client, and then my client will be like, “Okay, I really love her. However, how am I not physically see her as much?” And also, of course, energetic boundary as well is like how am I able to release and let go energetically instead of holding on that grudge or holding on that resentment towards her?
So you also talk about the channeling part of it. You talk about ancestors and your spiritual team. How is someone able to do that and what does that exactly look like when someone’s sitting here and their ancestors or their team is being channeled?
So, a lot of times, when I work with my clients, I will have a 20-minute consultation and see are we aligned. When they start talking, I ask them, okay, what is your intention or what is your current struggle or what are the block blockages, and 99 percent of the time, they’re like, “Okay, it’s because of my work or my money or relationships,” like those are because it’s the front thing, but, however, when they start talking to me, I’m able to picking it up how is the dynamic between my client with their mom and with their dad and how is their dynamic of the mom and dad react to affect my clients directly and I’m able to get into three generations or four generations in is very easy for me, because a lot of times, when I look at the grandparents, I will have an idea, oh, this is the reason why your mom is reacting like this and your dad reacting like that. And I don’t need my clients to tell me what is going on. I’m able to channel, means that I’m able to download the information from them and understand the story behind and this is how I build rapport with my clients because they haven’t told me what the behind the scene looks like and I’m able to give them the story and they can confirm it with me and I’m like, okay, let’s look into it a little bit more for one more generation up. So, in that case, then they’re like, “Oh, I thought I’m coming to work with you, like how am I able to have a little bit better self-worth then I can have a better relationship? But I didn’t know that it’s my parents that they impact me, or my grandparents impacting my parents, and then they impacting me.” Because it’s not a strict line. It’s not like, okay, you come in to me to talk about relationship, and then a strict line is like, “Okay, you work on A, B and C then you will get the love of your life.”
Yeah, like ––
Like deep.
So that really like surface level, like I get a job, I get in better shape, I lose eight pounds, and then the love of my life will just come in.
I mean, for some people, yes, it can be, but a lot of times that is more like an energetic sync.
Yeah, so it’s like what you’re attracting through your energy. And then I know some people are skeptical about the whole idea of channeling and even skeptical the idea of even being able to talk to spirits. Are you able to identify when someone’s skeptical as someone that’s not aligned or are you able to work with people who do have some skepticism about that?
Yeah, I actually work with a lot of people that they are skeptic, actually, and when I’m able to tell them, like, okay, this is how the dynamic is between you and your dad, like you and your dad or like your mom and your dad, they’re like, “Okay, this is weird.” There’s times that I’m able to actually download the specific name of it and they’re like, “Whoa, how do you know that my brother is called X, Y and Z?” So I’m not here to prove them wrong but I’m here to open their mind to, okay, there’s things that you cannot just see, the information is out there, and I was able to know that, like, okay, your father abused your mother when you were young, and when you were like, I don’t know, five years old, and you saw X, Y, and Z and they were like, “There’s no freaking way that you would know.”
Yeah. I mean, it’s not common information and it’s not even something you could really necessarily look up online or something like that.
Yeah, yeah.
So this is not a traditional way to heal, however, the way that I’m providing as a channeler is allowing them to see something or understand something that they never actually knew about. Share on XSo, for instance, I worked with some clients that they have sexual trauma, but they never experienced sexual trauma in their life at all, and I was able to get into it. I was like, okay, your mom or your grandmother experienced this and this is the reason why it’s passed down to you. And then, sometimes, I’m like you might not know the information now, however, just collect it later. Just sit with it, collect it later. And then many times they come back to me, they’re like, “Oh my god, I asked my mom, and then my mom told me that Grandma experienced X, Y and Z. How the heck do you know?” I’m like, your spirit team told me about it so I’m able to hear. I’m literally able to hear, I’m able to see. It’s not like, how do I say it, like I’m looking at a part right now. It’s not like, “Oh, I’m able to see a part,” but it’s a vision. It’s a clairvoyant thing.
And then if anyone out there listening is interested in your channeling services, what will be the best way someone would get a hold of you?
Yeah, so they can reach me on Regarding Energy. I’m on Instagram, and then my website is www.regardingenergy.com. And also I offer 20-minute consultations if they are interested or they are just skeptical and they’re like, “Well, let me try to see what can you offer.” Yeah, they can reach out to me and I’m happy to talk to them, but, yeah, I specialize in generations, as we talked about. And also I would like to take a moment to explain what I do differently than therapists, if it’s okay.
Yeah, I just want to make sure that we are clarified though, it’s regardingenergy, all one word, no dash or hyphen or anything like that in the website?
No. So it’s regardingenergy.com.
Okay.
So it’s one word.
Yeah, all right, that makes sense. Just so anyone out there taking a note will know exactly where to go.
Yep, exactly. Yeah, so the difference between me and therapist is therapists, they collect the information based on the client give it to them, and a lot of the time the client, when they experience very deep trauma, they don’t even remember certain age and certain memory. So, as therapists, they will refer their clients to me because they are like, “Well, I cannot get into the nitty gritty, the really deep things. Can you help us out?” So therapist is able to collect the information and guide the clients to reframe their mindset. But for me is I’m actually able to go behind the scene. Means that they don’t even remember those trauma or they don’t remember certain memory or they don’t even know that it happens in their lineage so I’m able to collect those information like pieces of puzzles and I give it to my clients and I tell my clients, “Okay, bring this back to your therapist and he or she will help you to process and dissect in that sense.”
So then it’s safe to say that you’re not necessarily like a competition or an alternative therapy, it’s more like something that can be used alongside therapy and that therapists help you figure out, okay, what do you need to do about all these kind of memories and there’s the ones that you know in your head, but then, of course, there’s always going to be those memories that you don’t know whether it’s because you pushed it out, a lot of people just push out bad memories, or, in the case of ancestral stuff, no one experienced what my great grandfather did to my grandmother, for example.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And maybe even what you’re told by your parents or grandparents could even be an inaccurate memory as well.
Absolutely, because a lot of times when we experience a lot of pain, we want to say certain story to make us feel a little bit better and our story to the outside world looks a little bit better, and then we basically wash the real memory, quote, unquote, “real memories.” A lot of times, parents or grandparents give the story is not a real story in a sense, if that makes sense to you.
Oh, 100 percent.
So, yeah, so like in that case, then you are bringing that piece of the story that’s actually not 100 percent accurate and bring it to the therapist, and then the therapist help you to dissect or to help you to process it, but it’s not even the real true story. It will still help you to grow, but it’s more like we need the real stuff.
Yeah, it reminds me of the party game Telestrations. Have you ever played that?
No.
So it’s a game where you have like maybe a group of eight people, could be 10, 12 ––
Oh, the telephone?
Yeah, but it’s like this one alternates drawing and writing a word, so you could start with a word, say, teddy bear, and then, say, the next person has to draw it, so the next person will draw, say, a bear, and the next person might say, “Oh, this is a grizzly bear,” and then they’ll write the word grizzly bear, then the next person will draw a grizzly bear and maybe that person is not a really good drawer and draw something that the following person thinks looks more like a wolf, and, before you know it, it’s been kind of distorted in a way. And I feel like that’s what happens in a way, if you have, say, a grandparent that told a story to their children, and then they tell the story to their children, the grandchildren of the original story, and before you know it, it’s been distorted in much a similar way. And so it may have some relation to the truth but is not really the 100 percent accurate original word as it is in that game.
Yeah, that is a great analogy, actually, and you’re pretty accurate on that. And also, we, as a human, we want to hear what we want to hear, so we take those information and then we, in our mind, make up whatever story that suits us.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I also want a little bit talk to you about your personal story, where you started kind of with your career and what drew you to energy healing and channeling.
So my background, actually I was a professional makeup artist in fashion and commercial so nothing related to spiritual, nothing related to channeling. And a little bit over three years ago now, this basically land on my lap. So backtrack a little bit, while I was a makeup artist, I was living in San Francisco, then LA, and then New York, basically climbing that ladder, and I experienced a lot of depression and anxiety, and I didn’t know how much depression that I was experiencing is because of I had a pretty traumatic childhood trauma. My father and my mother, they are still together. They love each other a lot, but at the same time they are Asian, they are Chinese, so they don’t really know how to express love the way that we want as a human, so they just stick together. But what it was is I would say that when I grew up, it was pretty healthy, but because I moved from Hong Kong to United States when I was 11 turning 12, and I didn’t receive the love that I want as a child, and, basically, I was still developing as a kid, so I was like beating myself up. I have a lot of shame and guilt of like, “Oh, no one loves me,” because they sent me to the United States, even though they said that we want the best educations for you, which is true, but they don’t know what is the cost for it is causing much trauma.
Yeah.
And I still work on my abandonment issues, and then so, fast forward, so I’ve been depressed since I was kid, and I didn’t know that. I was talking about your memory got deleted because it was just too painful and you don’t want to remember it. So, fast forward, when I was in fashion industry, I was extremely depressed, I was extremely like –– I was so anxious, and I didn’t even know that I was anxious. So, 2018, I started going to therapy and I was like, well, how hard is therapy? Because my friend was introducing me to therapy. Back then, it wasn’t as big compared to currently.
Yeah.
And I was like, well, it’s easy. I love talking to people. Five minutes in, I was bawling my eyes out for the whole 60 minutes. So I will start unpacking my own emotions like I didn’t know how much resentment I have toward my family, how much anger I had, because, prior to that, I came across a lot of friends, they are like, “Regard, you’re so angry,” and I was like, “I’m not.”
You said it in a way that sounded angry.
I was like, “I’m not.” I was like, “What are you talking about?” And while I was living in New York and in fashion, we curse a lot. So, yeah, so I was like, “There is no freaking way, blah blah, blah, blah, blah,” But I was basically got trigger 11 right and while when I was in fashion for 10 years, I learned what I needed to learn. I needed to learn about my self-worth. I understand about not everything is about you and don’t take anything personal. So I developed an understanding like, well, everyone has their own story ,don’t take on other people’s story and just put it on you. And also, I learned how to start communicating, doing still my fashion era and also the therapy. And 2020, because of the whole world shut down, I cannot paint faces for a living anymore, and universe basically gave me no choice and moved back to live with my parents in Las Vegas, because my parents has been living in Las Vegas about 20 years at that time, and I moved out from New York and moved to Las Vegas, and I was like, “I hate Las Vegas, and blah, blah, blah,” but basically, my inner child still haven’t healed at that moment. And so when I start healing and start butt heading with my dad every single day and learning that, like, okay, I don’t want to carry this rollercoaster emotions off me every single day anymore, and I joke about that how I would describe my emotions is like an amusement park.
Okay, yeah, like a lot of ups and downs and then ––
A lot of like roller coasters, a lot of rides going at the same time, and I don’t know how to manage it. And then when I start healing myself. December 2021, I went to one of the event, and it was just kind of like a spiritual event. I was still skeptic at that point, I’m like, okay, I want to learn what bigger power means, no matter for some people that they say God or spirit or higher self or universe, whatever you want to call it, there’s no judgment in here. And, yeah, so when I was in there, basically my gift is just unboxed at that moment and I start channeling. I was like, my voice became an 85-year-old raspy man voice and when I opened my mouth, everyone was like, “Who are you?” and I was like, “What is wrong with me?” And I was like ––
The first –– that’s got to be weird to hear the first time that happens, yeah.
Yeah, it was wild. I was like, “What the heck is going on?” And so I asked the host, I was like, “I don’t know what is wrong with me. Help me out.” So when she start reading me, she asked me, “What is your deal?” I was like, “I don’t know what is my deal.” I was like, “I’m an empath. I feel people’s emotion. I cry for people.” And she was like, “Okay, that’s new,” and she asked me, “Why don’t you start reading on your people on your right to left?” and then when I got to the third person, I start bawling my eyes out, I start saying things that I don’t even know what I said, I start describing what was her relationship with her ex-partner and the relationship with her daughter, the relationship with herself, the relationship with her parents, and she was like, “I never met you in my life, and you say everything to the T, and this is crazy.” And even though then I was channeling, I just didn’t know that I was channeling. And that was the day how it started. I actually asked the host to became my first mentor. And three months in, the same thing is just coming up as emotional, generational. Those are the things that is like a main theme, and, of course, your emotions has come from your generation trauma, generational trauma, so, yeah, since then, I’ve been very passionate to help people to understand that, because I’ve been doing my own emotional trauma, my generational as well. So, yeah, I will say between 350 to 400 readings, a little bit over three years.
Nice. So it sounds like it came from kind of your own experience and wanting to bring that to others. If anyone out there right now listening is in that point where they have a pattern, kind of like your pattern of being that angry person or feeling that rollercoaster of emotions or multiple rollercoasters of emotions or maybe one could even say Las Vegas of emotions, given how many different lights and how many different people are doing what all over that town that you were in at the time, anyone that’s in some kind of an experience like that and just has come to that point where you are or were where you said like, “I just don’t want this anymore,” what would you say that that person should do next?
So, first off, I would suggest them, like do you have a therapist? Because the support system is very important. People can come see me but I only see them like once a month, four to six weeks, to be exact, between sessions, because there’s a lot of emotions come up, they like it or not, but then having a therapist to help them to check in with them every single week definitely is important. Don’t judge yourself too much. Whatever that happens in the past. I strongly believe that our parents did their best at that moment. They only have certain kind of tools to do and raise us as a human and then we become an adult.
Because I walk the walk. I put in a lot of self-work in it, self-development and then the inner work. Few years back, I experienced the first time what peace looks like, and I never had it. And, basically, as we talked about the amusement part, everything just froze at that moment. So my rollercoaster is not going always up and down. Does it go sometimes like that? Of course, because I’m still human. But, however, it doesn’t need to go left and right, like up and down all the time, every single day. Once you understand and once you’re able to put in the work, the hope is there. We can change our life.
And that’s a wonderful note that I’m glad got covered, first of all, about not blaming your parents or not fixating on it, because very few parents really, really ever want to do bad things to their children. Most parents wanted the best for their children. And if you’re out there listening hearing this, your parents are probably one of the best for you and your parents probably also did try to be better than their parents before that, but also to be gentle upon yourself as you’re going through all this, because we’re all on a journey of some kind, or at least the kind of people that would tune into a podcast like this one are probably on a journey of that type, and we’re all just trying to process this. And the fact that you’ve come to that point where you realize, “Hey, I can envision myself having a different pattern,” is already a wonderful start and it’s already a wonderful revelation, even if you haven’t been able to make too much progress toward making it happen.
Yeah, absolutely. And, now. I focusing to help women to conceive and also helping struggling mom and overwhelming mom, those are my major client. I still work with females and males, nonbinary, but those are the ones that I focus on. It’s because that earlier this year, I literally get an intuitive download from my spirit team doing my sleep and they were saying that because that you specialize in generational trauma, and a lot of female that they cannot conceive is because of generational thing, and it affect their emotions. “Oh, am I enough? What if I’m like my mother? What if I’m not able to produce? What if I disappoint my family and my partner?” There’s a lot of inner thought. Those energetic blockages, especially nowadays that there’s a lot of challenges and a lot of stress out there, so when people understand, like, “Oh, that was the story,” and I don’t need, I can help people to release energetically so they don’t have to hold on to those stories so they can conceive. And same as mom. Mom, they want to do their best, just like what you were saying earlier. We as a human, we want to do our best, when there’s truths and when there’s awareness, and they don’t want to pass their trauma or their pain to their kids. So those are the people that I focus on, but, of course, I’m still very passionate to help different kind of humans, different shape and form.
Well, that’s wonderful. Any last things that you would like to convey to the audience out there today?
Don’t beat yourself up. This is such as a very brutal world. We need each other, we need a community. A lot of my clients said they think they are alone, but a lot of the time said, I hear the similar story one way or the other, and you are not alone.
There’s always help out there, as long as you are willing to ask for help and willing to receive and just be open minded change is possible. Share on XYeah. Oh, that is wonderful. Be willing to ask and be willing to receive. Regard, thank you so much for joining us today on Action’s Antidotes, telling us about a topic that some people may have been familiar with, some people may have not been, energy healing as well as channeling. And I would also like to thank everybody out there who’s listening today, everyone out there for being open enough to receive this particular podcast at this particular time, and being curious enough to go out there and search for ways to go about and create the life that you want.
Yeah, thank you for having me again and I really hope that this episode is helping some people out there. Thank you.
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About Regard Tang
Regard is an energy healer and channeler specializing in emotional and generational trauma healing. She is deeply attuned to the emotions and energy of others. After struggling with childhood trauma and abandonment issues, she spent years battling depression and anxiety before discovering her unique healing abilities. In 2021, a spiritual awakening revealed her gifts, allowing her to connect with clients’ ancestors and spirit guides to facilitate deep emotional and generational healing.
Through this work, Regard realized her life purpose: to help others release emotional wounds, break free from inherited patterns, and realign family relationships. She is committed to guiding individuals on their healing journey, empowering them to let go of the past and move forward with clarity and strength. Within her first three years, she delivered over 350 readings, helping clients uncover the roots of their struggles and transform patterns of limiting beliefs, self-doubt, overwhelm, and disconnection.
Blending energy healing with her intuitive abilities, Regard creates a safe, transformative space for growth, clarity, and balance. Her mission is to help others release emotional burdens, embrace their authentic selves, and find lasting peace.