We all experience moments when emotions overwhelm us, especially if we have trapped emotions that build up over time. In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel overloaded with anxiety, stress, and negative news. How can we find balance and set boundaries to protect our well-being?
In this episode, I sit down with Vanessa Shippy, an expert in energy work and emotional healing. Vanessa is dedicated to helping individuals release trapped emotions, cultivate self-awareness, and create a more balanced life. Through her work at Dawning Hope, she guides clients on their healing journeys by integrating energy healing, mindset shifts, and self-care practices.
We discuss how emotional buildup affects our nervous system, why setting energetic boundaries is essential, and how self-compassion plays a key role in emotional well-being. Vanessa shares real-life experiences from her clients, practical tips on processing emotions, and ways to stay grounded despite life’s challenges. Whether you’re dealing with stress, anxiety, or emotional overload, this conversation will provide actionable insights to help you regain balance. Tune in for an enlightening discussion!
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Finding Balance and Emotional Well-Being with Vanessa Shippy
Welcome to Action’s Antidotes, your antidote to the mindset that keeps you settling for less. Today, I want to talk to you about a common situation where we have some trapped emotions, and what I mean by that is you want to get some stuff done, you have an important meeting maybe or even just a list of tasks that you would really like to accomplish and do well, yet something someone said or something someone did just kind of stays tracked in your mind, like it triggered you in a way, and you don’t even oftentimes know why do I keep thinking about that but you just can’t stop thinking about it. Why was her tone of voice like that? Why did he slam the door? Etc. So, today, I want to talk to you about how we can possibly get past some of these and other energetic and balanced situations by introducing to you my guest, Vanessa Shippy, and she is the founder of Dawning Hope.
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Vanessa, welcome to the program.
Hi, thank you for having me.
Thank you and welcome to Action’s Antidotes. First of all, tell us a little bit about Dawning Hope.
Yeah, so Dawning Hope is my business. I’m honored to serve in a way. I get to offer intuitive energy reading, clearing, balancing, and channeling sessions, and I’m actually also currently putting together resources and a guide to help people come into touch with their own energy and body. I typically will encourage this through like nervous system regulation and emotional processing, like through gaining knowledge and restoring balance to the mind, body, and spirit as a whole. I myself went from bedridden to feeling better than I ever have. My vision for my business is to let others know that even after the darkest night, the sun always rises and the dawn brings new hope.
With my initial statement, am I even thinking about it properly? Because I guess I was thinking about a situation where, okay, this person said something like this, this person was in a bad mood and it’s weighing in my mind, but is that even the situation or is it about something way more than what happened yesterday, what happened this morning that I just can’t stop ruminating on?
Yeah, so that can be more of the effects of what maybe actually happened. Typically, some of our deepest, you could say, traumas or trapped energies will occur in childhood. I personally have a theory that children are so open and, in openness, it’s a gift but it can also be a vulnerability, and so, oftentimes, the way that they perceive the world is rather deep and they can internalize it more than adults might just because they don’t have the same understanding or experience as adults. Say, if someone said something to you this morning and you’re just wondering why did they have that tone of voice or why did they shut the door so hard, like you said, and that can be more so like an echo and a hyper-fixation that can occur from maybe when you were a child and something happened that you perceived as kind of traumatic possibly.
So it’s not necessarily about what happens to you, it’s more about how you perceive what happens to you. Share on XMaybe someone did slam the door and then, that same day, something terrible happened, maybe your parents got in a car wreck or something like that. It can be something like that so it doesn’t even need to be something that happened directly with slamming the door or it doesn’t have to be something that, say, someone yelled at you and then slammed the door. It can just be kind of associations more so, the mind going and going, kind of overthinking things. That’s often more of an echo of trapped energies than the thing that you’re overthinking actually being the trapped energy, per se.
When I think about the slammed door situation, the only reason that really matters is that it has the potential to wear your door out a little bit and maybe you’ll need to buy a new door earlier than otherwise anticipated. And, of course, you heard a loud noise, but it’s not necessarily like a bad thing happening to your life. Yet a lot of people can think of it that way and a lot of people can respond in the way, and so it sounds like what you’re saying is that at some period in the past in your life, usually it’s childhood but people can have openness even later on, you developed a mental association, and what I love about this and you can correct me if I’m thinking about this one incorrectly as well is it’s not necessarily about this whole idea of my parents did this to me, it could just be a mental association that could be happenstance. It could be that horrible teacher always slammed the door at the end of sixth period when you were in sixth grade, seventh grade, or something like that. Or it could be when this happened, the day that my grandparents died, I smelled this horrible odor and now every time I go anywhere near a raccoon, I just lose my shit.
Yeah, exactly. And if you think about the concept of PTSD, my mind sometimes will go to the war veterans and things so it’s not ––- well, after they come home, it’s not often that they are present to the same noises, per se, but just loud noises in general can reiterate that stress response and then you might associate that stress response with something negative because, oftentimes, when something overwhelming is happening, we do go into a stress response and so then maybe your body begins to panic when you begin to go into a stress response in general. So it doesn’t necessarily have to be what’s happening around you, it could be also how you are responding to what’s happening around you.
Yeah. And so, just wild guess, if you were to take, say, a thousand instances in which people today are going into stress responses, what percentage of them or what number of those thousand do you think are genuinely responses to stress versus some of these associations that we’ve built in our heads?
A high percentage would be my guess. A high percentage. It’s just the way that our species has evolved in recent centuries, that the body is just kind of, I guess, overwhelmed, like there’s just been so much build up. And you can inherit things from your ancestors and I’m not sure of certain people’s beliefs but some people believe that you can bring them in from other lifetimes and it’s not necessarily even just what happened to us in this lifetime but there is science backing up that we also are carrying, you could say trauma from ancestors. I don’t know the exact number but it’s many generations back. And so then you add that to the modern world where we’re constantly present to so much overstimulation and even having to work every day, that didn’t used to be a thing centuries ago, and if you think of the ancient ancestors, you could say, that just lived in nature and were constantly connected to the earth and it was more of a calm and quiet life than what we live in now. I mean, it makes sense that our bodies are kind of ramped up, and then on top of all the wars and all the history that we have in our cellular DNA, it makes sense that we’re overwhelmed often.
One thing I want to make sure I continue to reiterate is that Action’s Antidotes, I’m not telling anyone what to or what not to believe in, but some of the things that are really wonderful about some of these concepts is that there’s a way to explain it to people who believe in the spiritual concepts and a way to explain it to people who are way more logic driven, because, in the spiritual sense, you can say, “Okay, my ancestry had these experiences and it’s kind of just built into my soul contract on Earth,” and stuff like that, whereas in a more on-Earth practical context, you could just simply say, “Well, these patterns kind of continued,” and if you look back at your parents patterns, they probably took some things from their parents’ patterns. The story about the woman who always kind of cuts the legs off the turkey every single time she cooks it and she asked her grandmother, eventually, after 30 years of doing it this way, she asked her grandmother why they do it like that and she just simply explained, “Well, when I was a kid, our oven wasn’t big enough so we had to chop it off,” yet we kind of never really thought that through and I think there’s a lot of situations like that where we look at patterns, even the argument I commonly make is that our pattern of work, our eight-hour work day or nine-to-five shifts are a holdover from when we were doing factory work that was applied to some of these more creative problem solving jobs that we just never really thought through, does this work.
Yeah, exactly. That’s very good example.
And so at Dawning Hope, you try to help these energetic balances so that our responses to any of those stimuli in the future could be a lot more healthy, measured?
Yeah, exactly. For example, with the Emotion Code, which is a modality that I’m certified in, there are different emotions that you can trap and, for example, they have different energies. So it’s kind of how joy might feel different in your body than fear. That would be a way to describe a different energy. And, for example, fear can be a trapped emotion and maybe one person was very fortunate and only trapped fear once in their life, and then another person has trapped fear hundreds of times even maybe. They’re going to likely react to the same situation very differently. And so, for me, what I can help to do with the Emotion Code specifically would be to help neutralize those energies and this can help a lot of different things because if you think about the energy body, I’m not sure if you’re familiar with the concept of meridians. I believe it’s a Chinese medicine term.
I only know meridians as lines of longitude on the earth and in Denver, we’re at the -105 meridian so this is a completely different concept.
Okay, yeah. I mean, it can be similar because these are meridians in the body so there are these energy channels that carry energy throughout the body and help with communication throughout organs and bodily systems. Dr Bradley Nelson, he’s the creator of the Emotion Code, the way that he describes it is an emotion can be –– you can compare it to a ball of energy. And so if you’re experiencing an emotion and you’re already stressed out or you don’t have the capacity to fully move it through your body in that time, which often this can also come back to childhood because, as children, we don’t always have the capacity to deal with these big emotions, that’s why we often will look to a grounded adult to help us with that because our nervous systems aren’t fully developed enough to get through these harder things on our own, necessarily.
And that’s most likely your parents or most commonly your parents.
Typically, yeah, Yeah, caregivers. And so if you’re experiencing an emotion and you don’t have the capacity to fully move that through, sometimes the body can be like, “Okay, you don’t have the capacity for this right now, we’re gonna save it for later when we are in a safer place or a calmer state.” And so that’s how they describe this ball of energy. It can then be stored anywhere in the body or the energy field and it can become trapped and this can disrupt the entire energy field and the overall balance of not only the body but the mind and just your entire being, necessarily, and so that’s kind of where I can come in and help to release the trapped emotions. Or with Body Code, we can also help to kind of rebalance different areas of the body. Beliefs can be similar, which is where Belief Code would come in. They can cause imbalance in the energy field.
So what exactly is the Emotion Code? Is it an actual code? Is it a set of words? Is it a set of connections and the synapses of your brain?
It’s a modality and you use –– have you heard of muscle testing? Muscle testing is sometimes referred to as applied kinesiology and it is where you can interact with the subconscious mind and/or the body. So, for example, I used to go to a chiropractor who practiced muscle testing and she would muscle test for supplements and so you would stick out your arm and she would hold the supplement and then she would touch your arm and lightly press down on it. She could tell if it was weaker or stronger. And if it was weaker, that meant that your body did not, I guess you could say tolerate that supplement as well, but if your body got stronger in the presence of that supplement, then it was more in your favor. Yeah, and so I practiced this from a distance method, it’s called proxy, and that’s what they teach often in Emotion Code when people aren’t able to do like in-person sessions or they choose to work with people from anywhere in the world. So you can practice that method via proxy and you can use your own body as you’re connected with the other person in order to tell if the body is weakened or strengthened by –– in that case, it’d be a supplement, but in this case, it is essentially to yes or no questions that you can ask the subconscious mind. And so yes is strong, no is weak.
I see. So you’re asking a bunch of questions about certain experiences.
So we don’t have to go into experiences for this. For this method, in particular, they broke down all emotions into, I want to say about 60, 62, something like that, 62 emotions that are kind of blanket over all the various emotions that we can experience. They made a chart of these emotions and I believe that’s why it’s called the Emotion Code because of the chart of the emotions. And then you can go through and muscle test, is it in column A? Is it in row one? And you find the emotion that is coming up in regard to whether the person picked a topic for the session or whether they are just looking for what has been impacting them the most.
and so in following what it is telling us, we can find kind of what might be impacting the most. And then there’s a method of release to release and neutralize that energy.
Let’s just say an emotion like, let’s just say melancholy, I don’t know if that’s one of the emotions or not but just kind of like despair, sadness, and that’s something that essentially we need to kind of respond properly to because you’re not going to live your life without ever experiencing even some of the negative emotions, but just like kind of understanding how much that emotion makes your body weaker?
Yeah, and how it might negatively impact your energy field, your mind, your thoughts. If you follow the concept of manifestation, it can also negatively impact your life. And so the chart is mostly made up of negative emotions. There is one you could say positive emotion. I personally don’t like to think of them as negative and positive because it can create this resistance in the mind, but there is over joy and that can be when you’re experiencing so much joy that you can’t process it necessarily as well or it could get trapped more easily. But, often, we actually don’t trap, quote, unquote, “positive emotions” because we’re so present to them and we’re so grateful. It’s more so negative, quote, unquote, “negative emotions” that we will trap.
Yeah, so you’re saying that despair is an emotion that we could end up trapping. We’re in a time period right now, kind of spring of 2025, where there are a lot of people who are, say, losing their jobs, right? And losing a job might give you some despair or some grief or some sort of emotion around like, okay, this experience and this experience is over and now I have this, but it’s a matter of letting that emotion happen rather than trapping it in your system.
Yeah, rather than avoiding or dissociating or even rejecting.
If you become more present to it, if you can develop that capacity, then it can more easily move through your system. Share on XYeah. So when it comes to this –– well, your entire program, I would say, feels like the most powerful story about it is, well, your own. And so I want to make sure that we kind of cover this because you used it to get out of a pretty dark place.
Yeah. So, for me, I had a lot of things happen in my life that I guess you could say I didn’t feel like I had the capacity for at the time. There were a lot of really deep and even you could say maybe traumatic experiences, and whether that is traumatic in the sense of how I viewed it as a child, which it could be something as simple as like my cat didn’t come to me when I asked it to and I felt rejection, and I was never necessarily taught how to maybe stay present to that emotion or even really acknowledge it, and that’s kind of a key to processing it, not to say that if we don’t acknowledge it, it doesn’t process, but it’s just different for everyone in every situation. And so I just had a lot of emotional build up, you could say, and then, at one point, my health began rapidly declining when I lived in a home with extremely toxic black mold that I was unaware of. When that happened, I’m not a person to not question things, I guess you could say, yeah, so I began looking for answers or reasons or anything that could help me to understand more, and in understanding, I felt like there was a way that I could move past it, even though it felt all consuming because I was experiencing what felt like every symptom. And so I started doing research and diving down rabbit holes and I got into the realm of functional medicine and that’s when I learned about mold exposure and the symptoms that come with it and so that was very eye opening and getting out of that home really helped, but there were still many symptoms just in my body, when you’re breathing in mold all day, it can accumulate in your body as well, and the way that the mold had impacted me impacted me a lot in my digestive system and neurological system. There was still the kind of leftovers to get through and deal with. So we did detoxes and changed diets and I kept doing research because, like I said, I want to understand it more. We were improving, we were feeling better, then I had already kind of accessed the alternative health world and I was just so intrigued and so I just kept searching and just learning new things. I love learning new things. And, eventually, I came across energy work and I was like, okay, this is really interesting. It felt really familiar to me even though I hadn’t encountered it in this lifetime. And so I started diving into that and the rest is history, you could say.
So you dove into this energy work, like how did you use it to make yourself feel better than –– because obviously you were feeling with the effects of the mold, pretty shitty, for lack of a better way to put it.
Yeah, and, like I said, the trapped energies, they can impact your physical body. I did have trouble detoxing. The practitioners that I would work with would kind of give me protocols, like standardized protocols that worked for basically they would say everybody, and my body wasn’t tolerating them very well, and so I was trying to get on top of this mold and I was trying to detox it but I had to go so slowly, and eventually coming across the energy work, I realized that there were a lot of hindrances to healing, you could say, that I had developed over time, that could include emotional energies that I had trapped and that were kind of blocking. I mean, I felt heavy and you can just kind of feel that –– you feel off, maybe. So in releasing those, I started feeling less lighter and then the detoxing, my body was kind of processing better. And, I mean, if I could even begin to tell you all the ways that the energy work has helped me, we would be here all day, probably.
Just give a high level of how you felt before the energy work and how you feel now.
Yeah. So, before the energy work, that’s when I was doing all the detoxes and trying kind of the physical things that you can see with your eyes and it was detoxing and sauna and supplements and all of that and I was improving. I just felt like there was more that I needed in order to fully, recovery, you could say. And so, yeah, then after the energy work, I mean, I don’t think that we’re ever, quote, unquote, “done.” I think we’re always continuing our journey. When I first began learning modalities, I did really dive deep and do a lot of energy work on myself for a while and now it’s kind of more just periodically, regularly. But after that, it was a significant difference also in my mind, like the way I thought about things, the way I view things, and that I think can also help even the detox aspect because if you think I don’t think I can heal, I can’t fully heal, if you have those energies in your body, it’s pretty likely going to hinder your healing, and so I think in releasing those, it was just also opening to the possibility of full recovery.
I don’t remember the exact number so forgive me if I’m incorrect here, but I heard some people say a number around 80 percent of human thoughts are negative based on whatever experience around us. Did you make a conscious effort to get that number closer to that imbalance, making sure that you thought a little bit more about the positive stuff and tried to make yourself think less about some of the negative things?
I didn’t necessarily want to like not think about the negative things, because I think it’s our innate nature to want to problem solve and, obviously, that was my nature. So the nervous system is wired to constantly look for threat. I mean, that would be my theory as to why so many of our thoughts are negative because we’re looking for something that is negative essentially in order to protect ourselves and to stay safe. And so, in releasing these energies from my body, my body didn’t constantly feel threatened by them anymore and so I began to access more safety in my body and, in doing that, I didn’t feel as threatened.
I do think that that played a major role in that.
So that makes the situation of the slammed door or even the really weird tone of voice just not be perceived as a threat where most likely it’s not, and then they’ll still be real in life but those other things don’t add to how much threats you have.
Yeah, and so it might be like I notice a tone of voice or I notice the slammed door and then I can just kind of go about my day. I really think that I don’t notice as many things like that I think will be a threat either, like negative things you could say, like if someone slams the door, it might just kind of not even come to my awareness as much as if someone slammed a door and I was hyper-fixated on it and I’m like, “Why did they do that? What’s gonna happen next?” and it kind of just changes your physiology a bit.
Now, when you were doing the detoxing, and it was working a little bit but it sounds like not getting at the core of the problem, did you have the phase at all where you were just simply frustrated by why it wasn’t working the way you had hoped or did you go straight into that curiosity mode of, “Okay, this isn’t working. What can I learn from it?”?
No, there was a lot of frustration and even, I would say, experiences of hopelessness and like maybe it can’t happen for me, maybe this is what I’m meant, all of those, like you said, those negative thoughts, and I have had a lot of trapped emotions of hopelessness. I’ve experienced things like that that were still in my energy field and kind of amplified that experience and my mindset around it.
So was there something you need to do to get out of that phase? Because I think it’s natural, it’s human, and I want to make sure no one listening who is in this phase feels any kind of shame for that given that it happens to anyone, but what did you do or what did you need to do to get out of that and get into that feeling of curiosity, of, “Okay, what can I think of to try next?” type of mode?
It wasn’t like absolute for me, so I kind of ebbed and flowed in and out of curiosity, hopelessness, frustration. In a healing journey, there’s a lot of emotional experiences as well. And so, for me, I personally didn’t feel like quitting was an option, I guess you could say. It was like, this is my life and I either get better or I’m going to keep trying. It wasn’t like that, I guess, motivational in my mind, it was like what choice do I have kind of at the time, because, like I said, I was kind of hopeless and I was wondering –– the ways that it was impacting my family and my life was just a lot. And so, for me, it was staying curious because, I guess, didn’t know where else to turn.
Whether you did it yourself or whether some other outside factor did it had the option of quitting just cut off from your list of options, whereas like there’s a lot of things people try to do in life, even if, say, I want to get in better shape, to use a really generic type of commonly used example, where I think for a lot of people, it was just quitting can be an option. People can say, “Well, maybe I just wasn’t meant to be the person that could run that marathon, do that long bike ride, or hang with people on all these activities for the whole day.”
There were times when I felt so hopeless that I wouldn’t, I guess you could say, do any research that day or that week. It was just like I just need a break, I just need to rest. But I think consistency is key, even if it’s over time, so maybe even if you can’t have consistency like every day, maybe if you can look back at a month and say, okay, 17 of the days, I did have progress or I did what I needed to do. And I think that, for people getting in shape –– for me, it was kind of extreme. So, for someone getting in shape because their doctor might have told them you have to get in shape or else kind of, then they might have more motivation and less likelihood to quit than someone who is overall okay, they just want to get in better shape. But I think either way, just trying to be consistent in some manner could be really helpful in achieving that goal.
I’ve always said that we’re going to have our general intentions and there’s always going to be the day that you fall off. It’s really what your default, what your common mode is. So, in those days, and let’s just say even with alcoholism or even alcohol consumption, we’re all going to have those days where we’re going to want to go out, get drunk, party, and stuff like that, but on the average Tuesday night, when it’s just what normal people do on Tuesday nights, are you pulling out drinks from the shelf or are you just having a healthy dinner and having iced tea? Because I think that’s kind of where the result of your life really begins to happen.
Yeah, like who you are most often is kind of who you are versus when you make a mistake, you’re not that mistake that you made one time and if you can pick yourself up and go back to, “Okay, what is my desire really? What am I looking for? What am I aiming toward?” even when you have a setback, kind of get up and remember that, even if it takes a few days, it doesn’t have to be all in one day that you have a setback and then recover. And some people may have a setback for months or years and that’s okay as long as that consistency can come into play.
Yeah, because we’re all going to have moments where, especially if you have these trapped emotions, the emotions will kind of overwhelm you and I think all of us have had that one day where just a bunch of stuff is happening, maybe you’re really anxious about, I don’t know, your job possibilities, maybe your company is kind of going under and you’re just like, “Okay, it’s a matter of time before I need to start looking for a new job. I’m anxious about that overall.” I have a family member who had a health scare and now, all of a sudden, I have some other person asking me for some random thing and some other person messaging me some really depressing news article, and before you know it, everything just kind of overloads your system, and you’re like, “I’m sorry. I can’t take anymore. I need to put in a really stupid movie and just let my brain kind of veg out for a while,” and the key is to kind of be gracious with ourselves when that happens, like we all, evolutionarily, we’re trained to handle a certain amount of emotions and there are things in the modern world that just brings it way above that capacity.
Yeah, absolutely, and there are seasons in life, like I have young children so I’m in a season of giving myself grace with other parts of my life because they are at the forefront right now and I know that that’s not always the case with kids, they grow up, so I know that in this season, there’s going to be priorities and there’s going to be things that might not get done but I have to kind of be forgiving and gracious of that. And I think what you’re speaking to can also kind of have to do with the nervous system, because, like I said, you can intake all this information but how are you perceiving it and what are you doing with it? Because it can just build up, but, like you said, how can you process that and let yourself rest a little bit in order to handle it?
Yeah. So in your work with your clients, what types of people, what situation do you usually intake your clients in?
Like I said, my vision being that maybe someone has hit rock bottom, I’ve noticed that my clients have often tried a lot of things and they get to the point where they’re pretty open to try anything, I guess you could say, and so that’s often when they will come to me, or I do get a lot of referral clients so someone has seen something really amazing happen from my work and they recommend it to a friend and that’s always amazing. Also, there are people who were kind of in my place, like, yeah, I’m on this healing journey, I’m looking to better myself and you come across energy work and you’re like, “Do the research,” you’re like, “Okay, I know this works. Let’s give it a try,” and then it’s kind of a compliment to their health and I think those are kind of the main three types of clients that I often see.
And if anyone listening is in that situation, is there a good way to get a hold of you? Is it best to check out your website or something else?
Yeah. I mean, my website is where my clients schedule sessions and so that’s a good place to schedule session. I try to be active on Instagram. My life is crazy, but my Instagram is @iamvanessadawn and so I do a lot of posting there, whether it’s just kind of inspirational or kind of more about in depth of what I do beyond just my bio on my website. I also have a Facebook page where the Instagram posts will go. And my website is www.dawninghope.net, and so that’s where you can book sessions and kind of learn generally about what I do.
Well, that’s a great place. Anyone listening, if you’re interested in this type of energetic work, if you’re in one of those situations where you’ve tried everything or you’re kind of learning about all the different topics that we cover on this podcast here, Action’s Antidotes, please go ahead and check that out. And then, as far as you talk about childhood and being open and having experiences kind of trap emotions, do you have any thoughts about what our later in life experience could potentially have, whether it be bad jobs or even the media and just the way the media is, because I have, obviously, because of my business, a grand concern around how some of our media consumption, some of our social media consumption, some of the topics that we’re constantly exposed to are kind of impacting our mental wellbeing.
Yeah, absolutely. I think that you can accumulate unfavorable energies in your field from not even just experiencing something but from witnessing or reading of someone else experiencing it, and so I think that that can impact us similarly to if it was happening to us. I think it’s important to stay aware of what’s going on but, again, if we look at evolutionarily, our ancestors didn’t know what was happening across the world and so there’s a line that can be drawn when it feels like too much.
I always like to have compassion for what’s going on but we can’t take everything on as our own. Share on XWe often just need to focus on what we can do to help so whether it’s donate or send a loving message, whatever it might be to help those who are experiencing it, but I think the over consumption of a lot of doom and gloom can ultimately lead to negative effects on us.
And do you ever work in or advise your clients on the idea of setting boundaries? One example is if someone wanted to go back to the old way of consuming news, which, back when I was a kid, it was like the news would come on in the morning and then it would come on at night, but all through the rest of the day, unless you bring a newspaper and read it, you’re doing other things. So are there kind of boundaries like that that you’re kind of looking into or advising clients on?
Yeah, I’m pretty big on energetic boundaries too, that will be my next guide that I come out with. I think it’s really important because without some kind of structure or boundaries, it has a lot to do with self-respect and so if you really respect yourself enough to, I guess, do what’s best for your own wellbeing, you’re going to have to put boundaries in place at some point, just because, like I said, we can’t take it all on all the time. It’s not what our body is capable of doing. And so I think boundaries are really important, especially with negative news, because, again, if we are experiencing it, we don’t really even know the reality of what could or could not be happening so maybe sometimes it might be perceived as more negative. We kind of make it our problem even if there’s nothing we can do.
I think this applies regardless of whether it’s coming from the news, from over consumption of social media, websites and stuff, or if it’s coming from actual people in your life that try to make their problems yours all the time. It’s the ability to say, “Okay, sorry. I know you care a lot about this, I know you’re really stressed about this, but, energetically” –– and you don’t have to say it out loud, just like practice in your head, but saying, “Energetically, I’m not gonna make these my own problems. I’m not gonna make the stress my own stress, and I’m not gonna make this fight or flight mode my own fight or flight mode.”
Yeah, there’s a practice that I love. It’s someone’s expressing issues, I guess, you could say, to you, you can ask, “Would you like me to hold space or offer advice?” and listening to what they have to say then you kind of know where this conversation is going or kind of what your role in it is because if someone just needs a listening ear, you can offer that without taking it all on and wanting to try to figure it out and give advice. And I think that often people just need someone to listen and it’s not necessarily, “I need you to solve this problem. I need you to take this on,” they’re just wanting to share because they want to feel seen, I guess you could say.
Yeah. I mean, if someone’s experiencing something that’s really stressing them out or they feel there’s a real injustice trigger in some capacity, like how could this person possibly, I don’t know, I’m going to use the stupidest example, but how could this person possibly park in front of my house or something like that, but still feel something from that, they still feel and they want to feel heard, they want to feel understood and validated in the sense of like I have a right, I’m justified in feeling the way I feel, even though I don’t necessarily buy into that particular example.
Yeah. Well, for that example, maybe they are the only person who can really do anything about it by going and talking to whoever parked and saying, “Hey, this is my house. Can you not park here?” but, say, if their uncle was like, “I’m gonna go talk to them,” it’s like, well, it doesn’t warrant that response just because it’s not, I guess you could say it’s not their problem so if they just need someone to listen to, that’s okay too.
Yeah, and then they can take care of their own problem. Vanessa, what’s your overall hope? You talked about like your vision a few times over the course of this episode. What’s your overall hope for the impact that you want to have on the world around you?
I just want to help the world to be a more loving place. I guess you could say bringing in more love and light into the world and helping each other and community and connection. I think that we can be a more loving species in humanity in general when we feel good ourselves.
And that ties right into all the curiosity you’re talking about, because I’m guessing you see a lot of what I see when you look at humanity as a whole and you’re like, “We’re capable of better,” than what I commonly see in the day to day with how we interact with each other, how we set up our lives and stuff, but, it’s like, okay, how do we go about helping us get to that state?
You think, “Oh, I’m just one person. I can’t make a difference,” but I’ve learned from my clients, especially, that you can make a difference in one person’s life and it ripples throughout endless lives.
Yeah, and, oftentimes, some of the difference you make is things that you never become aware of. So you said something that someone responds to in a way and maybe it changes the way they respond to that next person and stuff like that and it’ll never get back to you that what you did caused something to happen on the other end of town or the other end of the world.
Yeah, it is vast beyond our perception, I think.
Well, that is wonderful. Vanessa, thank you so much for joining us today on Action’s Antidotes, sharing your story about how some of this energetic work can really make a world of difference in your own life in how you’re feeling, get you out of a really tough spot, and also how it can help your clients achieve similar ends.
Yeah, I appreciate you having me. It was fun to chat today.
Well, it’s wonderful. I would also like to thank everybody out there for listening today. If this is your first or your 156th listen, I am thankful to have you here and thankful to have you on the journey because I believe that everybody that’s listening, paying attention, that’s being open minded to the discussions being had on Action’s Antidotes is helping us create that better world that we were talking about just by being open to these ideas and maybe finding the one that resonates with you.
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About Vanessa Shippy
Vanessa is a Certified Practitioner in the Emotion Code, Body Code, Belief Code, and Intuitive Rebirth, with training in Energetic Muscle Testing, Integrated Quantum Therapy, Western Astrology, and Trauma Informed Care. She offers one-to-one energy-shifting sessions and is creating a guide to help people connect with their own body and energy field through nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and self-reflection. Her vision for her business, Dawning Hope, is to let others know that even after the darkest night, the sun always rises, and the dawn brings new hope.
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